Accept that it is part of the journey of life, that there is good reason why it happened and move on with your life purpose…because being hurt can’t and shouldn’t stop you from fulfilling your life purpose…that helps tremendously…because instead of focusing on us we pivot to something more important than us…
Amen to that whole episode on hurt! You are particularly right when you talked about emotional intelligence and mastery. How much it would change the world with something so simple and accessible!
It personnally took me 34 to master my feelings and 32 to even be aware that I had to master them. This is how clueless we are about it all and there is no point feeling shame about it, we are all in the same boat. We can only help each other out before it sinks.
Here's my take on it:
We are so hurt that we thing if we acknowledge the hurt it will hurt even more.
The reality is that it doesn't. But go tell that to that traumatised brain. It takes practice.
Personnally I do two things:
I journal. I state:
I am hurt.
This happened and left me hurt.
I am hurt because that made me feel...
I felt this way because I expected...
I expected this because I am lacking...
With that new gained clarity, I am ready to embrace my feelings, and myself. Give myself some compassion, care, understanding, and love. From that place I am even able to forgive and repair.
It goes even deeper because often being hurt is not even the actual situation but a replay of a traumatic event.
What part of me felt freightened?
Can I identify the deep fears it triggered?
Can I go back to a time when I first experienced that?
Is the experience of this feeling still relevant?
This seems like a lot of work, but actually, it goes through much faster than self- destruction.
Journaling is a great way to reduce hurt. It is a therapeutic process for cleansing the accumulated baggage in the brain. And this is true too that a lot of it boils down to self-compassion and self-love.
I think as long as we are able to express the hurt in a creative way we will do good in our lives. And a listening and compassionate ear helps too :)
Accept that it is part of the journey of life, that there is good reason why it happened and move on with your life purpose…because being hurt can’t and shouldn’t stop you from fulfilling your life purpose…that helps tremendously…because instead of focusing on us we pivot to something more important than us…
Amen to that whole episode on hurt! You are particularly right when you talked about emotional intelligence and mastery. How much it would change the world with something so simple and accessible!
It personnally took me 34 to master my feelings and 32 to even be aware that I had to master them. This is how clueless we are about it all and there is no point feeling shame about it, we are all in the same boat. We can only help each other out before it sinks.
Here's my take on it:
We are so hurt that we thing if we acknowledge the hurt it will hurt even more.
The reality is that it doesn't. But go tell that to that traumatised brain. It takes practice.
Personnally I do two things:
I journal. I state:
I am hurt.
This happened and left me hurt.
I am hurt because that made me feel...
I felt this way because I expected...
I expected this because I am lacking...
With that new gained clarity, I am ready to embrace my feelings, and myself. Give myself some compassion, care, understanding, and love. From that place I am even able to forgive and repair.
It goes even deeper because often being hurt is not even the actual situation but a replay of a traumatic event.
What part of me felt freightened?
Can I identify the deep fears it triggered?
Can I go back to a time when I first experienced that?
Is the experience of this feeling still relevant?
This seems like a lot of work, but actually, it goes through much faster than self- destruction.
So true!
Journaling is a great way to reduce hurt. It is a therapeutic process for cleansing the accumulated baggage in the brain. And this is true too that a lot of it boils down to self-compassion and self-love.
I think as long as we are able to express the hurt in a creative way we will do good in our lives. And a listening and compassionate ear helps too :)